Christian Marriage Counseling: Feeling Take Action

When couples come to us for Marriage Counseling, each spouse is often overwhelmed by their own individual feelings. They have reached the point of despair by the time they have masked their feelings and our thinking. Feelings can range from anger or fear.

The best way to stop painful feelings is to learn the “Feelings Take Action” principle.

When we feel a negative emotion, we feel powerless to Fri something about it. We hope and pray that we feel better – we expect that the change in the emotions just “happen” for us, similar to how a cloud descends on someone.

We not “feel” like acting cheerful or optimistic. We are sad, or angry, or anxious, etc. We can not help what we feel. We feel like prisoners of our painful emotions. We want, but be kept hostage.

We can tell you a surefire way to change your feelings in less than one hour – but few people want to do. When we hurt – most people just want to ‘stew’ in their emotional pot. Our negative feelings we have undermined our energy.

When down, the last thing we want to do is to act happy. The fake, it’s fake, and we do not really feel happy anyway. The truth is that if we ACTION of doing things people do when they are happy – within about one hour, we will begin to feel much happier. It’s hard to believe – but it’s the truth

It seems too simple to really work, not the

All you need to try it for yourself is a list of behaviors you do when you are happy or in a good mood?. Your list should be personalized to the things and ways you behave when you are cheerful and happy. Make sure you do loving things for others. That is the biggest mood lifter of all. Even if you can only try to bless your partner – that’s OK.

Muster the courage to try, “Just this once”. Try anything once usually not burden anyone. Tell yourself that this exercise will not hurt you, and after one hour you can always go back to feeling the way you feel.

Feelings really follow the action!