Growth of Your Wedding

You either grow or weaken your marriage: the whole time you and your spouse or grow apart, weaken your marriage, or grow together, making it strong. For you and your husband to grow your marriage, the two parts together preferences, opinions and ideas. Getting to really know someone, inside and out, takes effort. If you have any trouble in your marriage, you do not maintain, you have to deteriorate and you’re growing apart. A marriage that grows together is one that both individuals make an effort to find out what’s in the heads of their husbands. They appreciate, understand and respect that information.

If both partners do not communicate or share life-changing, they may wake up one morning and find yourself sleeping next to a stranger. You do not marry your partner to get a copy of yourself. It is likely that the differences between you and your partner, your interest and made each of you to another exciting. If you are the artistic and analytical, or you’re impulsive and he is rational, you are probably complementary personality types that bring out the best in each other. The question is whether these differences are sufficient to break apart your marriage or just the right spice to add to your growing marriage.

You do not stay the same person that your spouse met. But husbands resist changes in their partner because they see it as a sign that their partner was dissatisfied with things as they are. When one partner suggests a change, the other partner often feels indirectly criticized, thinking that the other person means that the status quo is not good enough. Reassuring your partner is essential in this difficult time. Change is frightening, but if there is communication, honesty and a willingness to compromise at every step of the way, change can be a very positive thing, allowing your marriage to grow. Any change which together can be executed is more than just a change that can be taken separately.

William Grigsby, a retired multinational corp. executive, is now a consultant and writer.